Supporting a friend or loved one facing criminal charges can heighten stress and emotions in your relationship. During this difficult time, it is important to understand how you can help this person navigate the justice system and try to have the best outcome for their case.

Although it might feel challenging, you can balance supporting your loved one and your own needs in several ways.

1. Learning the legal process

Familiarizing yourself with the basics of the criminal defense process and the charges your loved one faces can help you better understand what they will go through. For example, you may learn about the stages of the criminal justice system (e.g., arraignment and pretrial) or research laws regarding their charges.

2. Providing emotional support

Supporting your loved one emotionally may include listening to their fears and concerns, offering genuine encouragement, and attending their court appearances. Be patient, as they may want to wait to discuss their situation. Refrain from asking for specifics if they call you from the police station or prison, as the officers record all calls.

3. Offering financial assistance

If you can financially manage it, another way to support your loved one’s criminal defense is by providing financial support. This can include paying attorney fees, helping post bail and funding them when they cannot work due to the charges.

4. Helping with practical needs

Some other ways you can support your friend or family member include helping them find legal representation immediately and arranging rides to their court dates. If they have children, you could offer to pick them up from school, run errands and provide meals.

As a supportive person, you can choose to help your loved one handle their criminal charges emotionally, practically and financially.